Relational rumination is defined as the repetitive thoughts that individuals experience about the viability and reliability of their current or past romantic relationships. This form of rumination often involves analyzing interactions, constantly questioning the overall quality of the relationship, or becoming preoccupied with past relational experiences (
1). Romantic relationships play a central role in human social and emotional well-being, fundamentally shaping psychological health and personal growth (
2). As inherently social beings, humans demonstrate a psychological drive to establish and sustain intimate interpersonal connections (
3). The importance of relationships in our lives is eloquently captured by Berscheid (
4), who states, "We are born in relationship, we live our lives in relationship with others and as we die, the effects of our relationships live on in the lives of those we leave behind, and reflect in all aspects of their lives" (p. 261 - 262). The quality of romantic relationships shapes mental and physical health, life satisfaction, social functioning, and the well-being of children (
5). However, despite the importance of these relationships, many individuals face significant challenges within them, leading to various personal concerns. When romantic relationships encounter problems or become dissatisfying, individuals often experience intense rumination accompanied by negative thoughts and emotions directed toward their relationship (
6).
Recent research underscores the significance of rumination as a transdiagnostic cognitive process that plays a critical role in the progress and maintenance of various psychological disorders, such as depression, anxiety, substance abuse, and maladaptive behaviors (
7). According to Nolen-Hoeksema’s theory (
8), individuals characterized by a ruminative response style tend to exhibit their negative moods by repeatedly and passively focusing on them (
9,
10). Building on this understanding, ruminative thoughts can vary greatly in content (
11), but we generally divide rumination into two major categories: Intrapersonal and interpersonal rumination. Intrapersonal rumination tends to focus on internal and self-related issues (
12). In contrast, interpersonal rumination focuses on external issues and is a process in which two people passively and repeatedly discuss and talk to each other about problems and symptoms, and ask unanswered questions (
13).
Given the significant impact of rumination on mental health, exploring its different forms provides valuable insights into coping mechanisms and the perpetuation of emotional distress (
12). In this regard, researchers have specifically highlighted relational rumination as a distinct form of interpersonal rumination worthy of further investigation (
14,
15). Studies have shown that individuals who are engaged in continuous rumination are likely to have difficulty in maintaining intimate relationships (
16), and higher levels of rumination have been associated with more cautious or contradictory views of such relationships (
14). This connection emphasizes the circular nature of relational rumination, where negative thoughts about the relationship may contribute to ongoing relationship difficulties, subsequently intensifying ruminative patterns. The self-regulation perspective suggests that relational rumination occurs when one of the goals of the relationship is blocked; these types of goals often receive attention from individuals because they are related to more abstract purposes (
6). When these goals are blocked, individuals become vulnerable to rumination about an unattainable relationship goal, while also experiencing strong negative effects such as anger and anxiety, which mutually reinforce each other (
12). In previous studies, a significant relationship has been observed between relational rumination and negative emotions (
12,
17,
18). Therefore, addressing relational rumination is essential for mitigating its adverse emotional consequences and improving relational functioning.
In the context of Iranian society, these issues take on unique dimensions due to specific cultural and religious values. While romantic relationships between young men and women have a long history, they often face unique challenges in Iran. Many of these relationships are formed secretly and without the knowledge or consent of families, leading to greater personal and social risks compared to other cultural contexts (
19). In recent years, the increasing use of the internet and social media, the expansion of university settings, and shifting societal values have contributed to a significant rise in the prevalence of romantic relationships among Iranian youth, as well as more positive attitudes toward such relationships (
20-
22). Consequently, relational rumination may be particularly pronounced in this cultural context, where societal pressures intensify relationship challenges and the resulting emotional distress.
Despite the apparent importance of relational rumination, there was previously no comprehensive questionnaire available to measure this construct in the Iranian population. Previous scales for relational rumination were either too specific (
15) or lacked robust evaluation of their validity and reliability (
6,
23). To formulate and validate a short-term, multidimensional, and self-report scale to measure romantic relationship-related rumination, Senkans et al. (
1) created a 16-item Relational Rumination Questionnaire (RelRQ) with three factors, including relationship uncertainty rumination (RU), romantic preoccupation rumination (RP), and break-up rumination (BU). The total score of the scale and subscales indicated acceptable internal consistency and good test-retest reliability. The factor structure indicated themes such as rumination about the start of a relationship, stable relationships, and previous partners and separations (
1).