We found three major themes: (a) motivators for recovery, (b) challenges for recovery, and (c) attitudes and preferences for family involvement in recovery.
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3 show the sub-themes that emerged for each of the major themes. Quotations from participants about the themes are taken verbatim from the transcripts.
4.1. Motivators for Recovery
Three sub-themes emerged regarding motivators for seeking substance abuse treatment and remaining substance-free: family, self, and legal problems. Participants described how these motivators helped them to enter and sustain their recovery process.
4.1.1. Family
The first sub-theme was family. Women described their children, parents, and partners as important sources of motivation and support. Families provided participants motivation and energy to change and to be better persons. One woman said:
My children and husband agreed and they made me see that it [treatment] was necessary... I tried to do it alone and I could not do it…I had already dealt with some [programs] and I did for a while [remain substance-free] but then it did not work and then it was when my family helped me…
Children were sources of motivation for these women and provided a sense of purpose to remain substance-free. Feeling that they needed to be there for their children, women wanted to set a good example and support them. One woman made the following comment:
My son encourages me just because of the fact that I am his caregiver and I am his mother. So that was a big part of me coming here and I wanted it for my son. I want him to become a better person…
4.1.2. Self
The second sub-theme under motivation was self. Several women mentioned that receiving treatment could make them feel that they were better persons or healthier. Many women expressed that they did not want to perpetuate the suffering and the problems caused by their addiction, and they did not want to continue feeling emptiness and a lack of purpose and meaning in life. One woman said:
What makes me stay substance [free] is the pain that I have endured. Using drugs has taken me to a dark place … I didn’t have nothing to live for… and I had to come to realize, you know, I was a very sick person.
Participants often perceived treatment as an opportunity to rebuild their lives and feel healthier, thus providing them a sense of worth and achievement. One woman said:
I am almost sick and tired [of] being sick and tired or getting high, that’s what makes me substance free, I don’t want to get high anymore…
4.1.3. Legal Problems
The third sub-theme under motivation was legal problems resulting from their substance abuse associated with going to jail or losing the custody of their children. Some participants had previously experienced legal problems did not want to repeat them. One woman commented:
I wouldn’t wish jail for no one and if that doesn’t wake you up then I don’t know what will, so jail motivated me to do the right thing, do not get high.
4.2. Challenges for Recovery
Three sub-themes emerged under the theme of challenges for recovery: negative family events, difficulty coping, and environmental cues (“people and places”).
4.2.1. Negative Family Events
Participants described family conflicts (i.e., arguments with their relatives and anger with absent parents or abusive partners) and family problems (e.g., family violence, substance abuse problems of others, and sexual abuse) as barriers in the recovery process. When family conflicts were present, the relationships with other members generated emotional problems and stress, leading some women to return to using drugs and alcohol. One participant said:
Me and my mom used to be real close. And when I started using drugs, I slowly just shut down, and then we never agreed on anything, like I would never take advice from her… and so like if I got mad at her, yeah, that would trigger me, and it would trigger me in a sense to where I am either upset so I am going to go, use because I am upset…we used to get into wild arguments.
In other cases, participants described isolation and lack of family support as a hindrance to recovery. One woman shared the following thoughts:
We have always been together [with my son] and I thought that after a month [in treatment] that I was not in the house, he [my son] was coming here ... And I saw that it has been a month and he has not come to a single therapy, that made me feel bad, very bad…There are times that I have asked my mom to go to a group but she cannot go, because she works, because she is tired, or because ... If she had learned a little more of the need of a group in the recovery she would have supported me more…
4.2.2. Difficulty Coping
The second sub-theme that emerged regarding recovery challenges was difficulty coping with stress, emotions, and relationships (conflicts) with other people. If women were not able to cope, they felt overwhelmed and out of control, which triggered them to use substances. One woman explained:
I couldn’t cope with anything, bills, that [was] too much. I had my son when I was like 19 years old, and that was too much… I always kept doing things wrong over and over and over again… So it was kind of like a circle, so like I was stuck, like one of little troubles or something, like run in a little cage in a circle over and over again, I was stuck there.
4.2.3. Environmental Cues (“People and Places”)
The third sub-theme under challenges for recovery was environmental cues. Participants described that being around people or places where the use of substances was accepted or expected jeopardized their intentions to achieve sobriety and stay in treatment.
In my home I used to just get high in my room. So, I suggested to my daughter, “Listen, move everything out of that room. I don’t want to live in that room no more… It going to remind me of such darkness cause that’s all I used to do is get high.” So, that’s the place.
4.3. Attitudes and Preferences for Family Involvement in Recovery
All of the women described positive attitudes towards involving their families in their treatment and the recovery process. Sub-themes that emerged were the purpose of involving family, cautions/barriers regarding involving family, and logistical issues for involving family.
4.3.1. Purpose of Involving Family
Participants mentioned the following reasons to involve family in their treatment and recovery process: so that their family members understand them, catharsis (letting out their experiences), healing their children, and getting support from the family.
Women expressed that the opportunity to communicate during family sessions would allow the family to understand and know them better. One participant mentioned:
When I went to court my mom was there. I hugged my mom and I whispered in her ear, I said, “I would love for you to come to family therapy so you could get to know me because you don’t really know me.”
Participants mentioned that family therapy can provide a venue to express feelings and experiences to family members that they usually do not feel able to discuss. One participant mentioned explained:
It [family therapy] would help because there’s so much happening in families …You know, they say “whatever happens in the family stays in the family” but families need to be able to sit around, and talk, and communicate with each other, you know, and tell how you feel. I believe that’s how families need to do.
These women also see the incorporation of family as a healing experience for their children. Women felt that involving their children in the recovery process would positively impact their family relationships because the children can see their change and regain trust in them as mothers. One woman said:
Addiction is a disease, but I want her to know that it’s an ongoing thing, that recovery is an ongoing process …. She knows [about my addiction], she just don’t want me to turn my back on her and go out and use again. Like she told me, she wants her mother back, and it really hurts to hear your kid say that…
In relation to gaining support from their families, several times women described that they felt ashamed about their past behavior. They feel that family therapy was positive for their lives and could help them to show their families that they have changed and that family support is crucial in the recovery process. A woman said:
I just want them [family] to notice that I have done this to prove a point to them that I can change, that I can stay sober… I want her [my daughter] to know that it’s a disease… and I want her [my daughter] to be involved to know people can get help, and people can change, and I don’t want her to go down the wrong path you know, and use drugs.
4.3.2. Cautions/Barriers Regarding Involving Family
Despite unanimously positive attitudes towards family therapy, some of the women described some cautions/barriers associated with family therapy. Some women were afraid that this type of therapy would cause conflict because it would disclose secrets that they had with other family members [i.e. their addiction]. For example one explained:
I do not like to lie, but to avoid pain to my mother, do you understand? [because she] with so much wishful thought, sacrifice, so much love [raised me], it is not that I do not want to include her but I would be shameful because it would very hard for her to believe that her daughter, a good girl was a drug addict.
In other cases, women described some barriers in involving their family and friends in their recovery. Several women felt judged by some of their relatives and did not feel able to discuss their substance problems with them. In other cases, women did not want to involve people who use substances. A woman shared the following thought:
Yes, for example, my family here ... they do not accept [substance abuse problems]. In my country, you know, becoming alcoholics and drug addicts, is something very wrong, very, very, bad, very shameful…My family will not ever participate in a program, I mean, in fact they never have come here….
4.3.3. Logistical Issues for Involving Family
Women mentioned logistical aspects that were important for the family therapy. They were willing to receive family therapy in a place that was comfortable for them, which could be at either their homes or therapy centers. Some women felt that family therapy at home was convenient and they they would like to have this opportunity, so all the family can participate. One woman said:
Yeah. And if I can’t come, my family couldn’t come to them, [if] a counselor [come to us], then there would be no excuse. If they can come to us there is no excuse so that those that didn’t participate it would be for their own self-esteem and I mean of course I will have to try and get them involved but if they really choose not to get involved then I could really look at it as they are lost as we would be relying on two wonderful people or many others.
Women also talked about who they wanted to involve in the family therapy. They were willing to involve their children, parents, other family members, counselors and other people who work in the recovery centers, and people receiving treatment. Women expressed the view that a counselor or therapist could help them discuss things that were both important for them and their families and that they were unprepared to discuss or confront with their families without a mediator. One woman said:
Family therapy is definitely something I would strongly advice and advocate for, very strongly advocate because it’s definitely good to have a mediator in the middle of issues that both of us are ignorant to or either one of us are ignorant to. So family therapy A-plus