The purpose of this study was to determine the relationship between social support and perceived stress in the mothers of infants with colic. With increase of social support, perceived stress in mothers is increased. Studies have shown that social support in the postpartum period is vital to increase the welfare of the mother and family, and enables the mother to deal effectively with stressful conditions (
12,
13,
23,
24). Also, it reduces concerns about the needs of mothers in postpartum (
25). However, the present study showed that with increase in social support, perceived stress was increased (r = 0.31, P = 0.001).
Keeff et al. (
8) stated that mothers with colicky infants were looking for sources to solve their infant’s problem, but did not receive appropriate support. Sometimes parental support for these women is a barrier to lactation. Qualitative studies showed that white mothers received less assistance than their family members in direct care for themselves and their child and already coordinated with a nurse or other caregivers. Such a decision was due to disagreements with their mothers and other relatives for childcare. Latin mothers, English-speaking and white mothers were criticized for their skills. Some women felt that provision of help to care for the child and home affairs had a negative impact on their competence and ability (
15). Many mothers with different ethnic and racial groups reported a fear of being judged and criticized by the family and friends for caring for their children and house affairs (
12,
15). Perhaps the criticism and judgment of supporters of the mothers with colicky infants also increased their perceived stress.
Since in the social support scale , social support by families, friends and others are emphasized and there is no clear indication for spousal assistance, researchers have a question entitled "How much the spouse cares for the infant?" in the demographic questionnaire. The results of the study showed that with increased social support of the mothers, the perceived stress also increased, but the spousal assistance reduced it. It has been shown that after childbirth, mothers need to receive support from their husband more, because of changing their role in taking care of the child rather than the family and friends. A reason may be a qualitative difference in the type of support (
26). Studies have shown that social support is an important source for women's mental health during pregnancy and postpartum. There is a need to a study to investigate the sources of social support with greater impacts on depression, anxiety and postpartum stress (
27-
29). Husband’s support for a woman is considered the primary source of support (
30,
31). Also, the main issue in social support is to recognize the needs and expectations of the mother and provide support based on needs without asking for support. Homework, child care, and the need to sleep after childbirth are women’s challenges that should be removed through support. Social support seems to be useful when it is available (
15). In the present study, maternal stress has increased because support may not have been based on the needs and expectations of the mothers. However, the husband being aware of the woman’s needs and expectations would have provided appropriate support. On the other hand, as the infant’s cry usually occurs at a particular time during the day, especially in the afternoons, evenings and nights (
32), when the spouse is beside the mother, his role becomes more eminent in meeting the needs of the woman. In this study, mothers who always had access to their spouse’s help had less perceived stress. Negron et al. (
15) studied a group of women who only sometimes received help from their partners. They were very pleased to pass on their specific needs to partners. Women mentioned the spouse as a major source of support after childbirth (
25,
33). In another study, some African American mothers said that they used their spouse to cope with unwanted family members’ help, because they did not prefer to receive help from their relatives (
34). Researchers believe that a new mother needs the partner's support for newborn care rather for the parent’s sake (
26). On the other hand, the effects of social protection may differ according to the family structure, because there is a difference between social networks in traditional and non-traditional families (
35), which were not studied in the present study.
Another reason for a significant and positive relationship between social support and perceived stress could be the nature of colic that was stressful for parents. Studies have shown that infantile colic can be highly stressful for parents (
4,
9,
36,
37). In a study on 1678 mothers with colic and non-colic infants, the results showed that infantile colic had a tremendous effect on the family, leading to a "parental colic" (
9).
Other reasons could be that mothers who were under stress and pressure during pregnancy (
7,
38), mostly had colicky infants. Therefore, they had higher stress than other mothers before the study. Ricci found that healthcare professionals were valuable resources for education and emotional support at this critical time, which could increase the confidence of parents and their sense of accomplishment in parenting skills (
39).
In this study, a survey of social support in mothers with colicky infants needed to have a tool in which the role of the healthcare provider and the father is more concrete, since they are more familiar with the needs of colicky mothers. Also, in this study those mothers who received breastfeeding education had a higher social support than the mothers who did not receive it. However, there is little understanding of social support, which may require more qualitative studies in the future.