This study tested the direct and indirect effects of perceived social support, self-compassion, and distress tolerance in a sample of parents of PKU children. This study yielded some significant findings.
Firstly, the results of this study indicated that the direct effect of the perceived support of others on self-compassion was significant and positive. The previous studies showed a link between the total score of perceived social support and self-compassion (
27,
37-
40). In the present study, the effect of perceived social support from (family and friends) on self-compassion was not significant. It seems that parents of PKU children usually feel lonely, sad, and guilty and get stigmatized due to the transfer of a defective gene by their family and friends and consequently do not like to share their problems with those close to them. On the other side, these parents receive dietary products and mental support services from NGOs, which consist of socially active and charitable individuals and health workers, in addition to other parents with PKU children whom they get to know and can address their concerns and issues. In line with this study, Fidika et al. pointed out that social support is a protective factor against perceived stress caused by controlling the child’s therapeutic diet. They indicated that parent support groups are the most useful place to hear the experiences of other families with PKU children, gather more information about the disease and the care needed, and acquire effective strategies for facing the disease at different developmental stages (
41).
Secondly, consistent with the results of previous studies (
42-
44), the direct effect of self-compassion on distress tolerance was significantly positive. Parents of children with PKU are vulnerable because they think that they are responsible for the conditions created for their child or that they are not able to properly care for their child. Parents of PKU children might feel guilty and blame themselves for passing on a defective gene to their child (
45). Self-compassion is an effective coping strategy that facilitates a kind of adaptive communication with oneself and awareness, along with acceptance of negative thoughts and feelings, kindness toward oneself when suffering, and the capacity to look at life’s challenges as part of common humanity (
18). On the other hand, the lack of this self-compassion might react to their difficult experiences by avoiding the experience of suffering, over-identification, blaming, and self-judgment (
13).
Being a member of PKU support groups and being supported by other individuals, in addition to sharing experiences with other parents of children with PKU, makes these individuals feel more effective, less limited, and isolated in their role as parents. Self-compassion allows a person to see more clearly and acknowledge difficulties without taking them more personally (
18). By addressing the challenges of raising a PKU child and remembering that suffering is a universal and common human experience, parents of children with PKU will feel less cut off from others. Therefore, self-compassion is a powerful buffer against the personal distress that can arise when caring for a child with PKU.
Thirdly, consistent with the results of previous studies (
27,
40,
46,
47), the relationship between perceived support from significant others and distress tolerance was mediated through self-compassion. The person’s perceptions can strengthen his/her coping resources in facing stressful events. The awareness of the existence of support resources makes the parents confident that they will get the help of others to face difficult situations and suffering caused by the child’s illness. In other words, in the beginning, the event is perceived as negative and stressful; however, the support resources available to face the stress factor help the person to endure that stressful event. A person’s perception of access to supportive resources is effective in weakening the negative effect of a stressful event, and finally, the parents can evaluate the event as controllable (
48).
Furthermore, strengthening awareness and acceptance, along with kindness, in parents makes them give themselves more opportunities to compensate and rebuild communication-based on trust and compassion toward themselves in interpersonal relationships that are criticized or blamed by others. Self-compassion can increase distress tolerance in individuals by providing positive experiences, increasing adaptation to stressful situations, and expressing empathy. Instead of avoiding painful feelings, self-compassionate individuals recognize and face them and show compassion and tolerance toward those feelings. Additionally, being a member and being in a suitable atmosphere of support groups and other parents with a child with PKU, providing and receiving positive feedback, benefiting from the support of others, and creating opportunities to express oneself appropriately and express views, opinions, confusion pain, and anxiety, sharing experiences and offering help to others to think together to reach the best solution can provide the basis for reducing the feeling of guilt and increasing the tolerance of distress.
5.1. Limitations, Implications, and Future Research
The current study’s sample consisted of Iranian parents with PKU children. Therefore, the findings might not be generalizable to other communities and other clinical samples. The same model can be tested in other communities, such as parents with other disabilities in children. Furthermore, the sample size was relatively small because PKU is a rare metabolic disease. The use of self-report tools and limited information from other sources can limit the validity of the findings; therefore, the use of measurement tools and more extensive information sources should be considered in future studies. The unequal number of fathers and mothers participating in this study has limited the possibility of further comparison and more accurate assessment of gender differences; therefore, further studies are needed in this regard. Another limitation was the cross-sectional nature of the study. Longitudinal studies can be conducted to evaluate the psychological status of the same parents at different ages of their children.
Future research should examine the above-mentioned associations in a much larger sample and other clinical populations to learn more about the interconnections between these variables. Qualitative studies can also explore these connections in more personally meaningful ways for the parents to increase our understanding of their experiences and help those suffering.
5.2. Conclusions
The findings of this study help clinicians pay closer attention to their client’s perceived social support from different sources (i.e., significant others, families, and friends), whether they experience self-compassion or not, and the level of their distress tolerance. Furthermore, the findings suggest that mental health professionals need to consider preventive education that can potentially decrease the prevalence of stigma from close friends and family of PKU children of transference of defective genes. The findings indicate the important role of self-compassion in the ability to tolerate distress. Therefore, parenting education focusing on self-compassion can be very important. Improving the ability to be kind to oneself can lead to less self-judgment and a feeling that they are not alone in their suffering and that they feel part of the community of human beings.