In the recent decades, families have undergone many changes due to the developments in global culture. In other words, the family is shrinking its traditional forms and rapidly becoming discarded. In the current century, the main feature of family life is its very diverse patterns (
1). Frustration, enmity, silence and lost opportunities profusely appear in many couples’ relations. One of the problems that pertains their life is that many couples lead a relatively dissatisfactory life, living like strangers. In fact, when couples get married and merge in sincere relationships, each brings in a plethora of dreams and expectations and ideals in the relationship, but gradually, these dreams and expectations might be substituted with stressful experience, and couples and their marriage becomes exposed to some marital losses and ends with various kinds of burnout (
2). Marital burnout in existential perspective and analytical psychology, is a state of physical, emotional, experience and mental fatigue resulting from too much difference between their expectations and realities and lack of awareness and understanding of each other (
3). Couple burnout is a gradual process and it rarely occurs unexpectedly, and instead happens over time (
4). In fact, love and intimacy gradually fade over time, followed by general fatigue, leading in the collapse of the marital relationship (
5). According to Pines (
6), the following are important features of couple burnout: a) physical exhaustion b) psychological exhaustion c) emotional exhaustion.
Physical exhaustion resulting from chronic fatigue is not cured with sleep. People with physical exhaustion experience severe nightmares. To go to sleep, they have to take some sleeping pills or use alcoholic drinks, and after waking up they feel tired, exhausted, and lethargic and they sometimes suffer from severe headaches, abdominal pain and backache. They are prone to a variety of diseases and regularly catch colds, and they may have bulimia or low appetite.
Emotional exhaustion leads to a decrease of self- confidence and usually negative attitudes towards marital relationship. People who get married with love, but later agonizingly scrutinize their spouse’s affairs and do not find anything like their past, could experience mental exhaustion. The feeling of despair and frustration is not limited only to their marital relations but they feel terribly frustrated about themselves. When they look in the mirror, they see their wrinkles and hate themselves. This attitude will affect their social life, feelings towards the future, interpersonal relations and marital relations.
Psychological exhaustion makes them feel hurt, demotivated and dispirited. They do not show any interest in explaining themselves and do not take any action. They are hopeless about restoring their relations. Their life seems empty and meaningless. Often depressed and trapped, they feel unable to make any kind of change. In severe cases, a sense of uselessness and despair can lead to emotional turmoil or suicide.
Marital burnout rarely occurs in a sudden manner and it is usually gradual and results from some drastic and painful life events (
5). In fact, the accumulated stress and tension of everyday life, causes wearing down and eventually leads to burnout. The above-mentioned issues all entail paying close attention to marital burnout and seeking for strategies for couples searching for help.
One of the effective therapeutic approaches in the field of family problems and conflicts is solution-focused therapy.
Solution-focused therapy stems from social constructive theory. Constructivists believe that language makes up reality and that people’s opinions and beliefs about reality are made through their relations with others in daily life. In other words, people in contact with others create meaning, for which language plays an essential role. The process of meaning creation is influenced by many factors such as racial, ethnic, socio-economic and religious contexts (
7).
The results of the research conducted by Izadi (
4) showed the effectiveness of solution-focused education on the reduction of married couples’ burnout.
Milner and Singlton (
8) concentrated on solution-focused treatment for individuals, who appeared aggressive. The results of the follow-up research within three years were significant.
Seidel and Hedly (
9) studied the use of solution-focused brief therapy with older adults in Mexico. The results showed that solution-focused education improved the psychological well-being of adults.
In our country, because of the vital status and value of the family, the importance of maintenance and improvement of family is of paramount importance. Therefore, it seems necessary to use scientific findings to keep this important institution more rewarding (
10).
Many couples assert the point that when tensions remain unresolved, they experience burnout (
9,
11). In order to reduce burnout of married individuals, who contribute to the growth and development of the most important institution of the community, we need better use the solution-focused approach (
12). Therefore, the present research aimed at investigating the effectiveness of solution-focused therapy on married couple’s burnout.