The data from the present study suggest that some caregivers redefine cancer as a coercive and negative authority that operates through a destructive, domineering, and all-consuming tradition; one that seeks to engulf not only the patient but also everything associated with them, including their family and caregivers. Although Sontag warned that military metaphors can be fear-inducing and demeaning (
21), our findings suggest otherwise in certain contexts. Consistent with the study by Semino et al., which highlights the motivational and agentic functions of war metaphors for caregivers (
22), our data show that redefining cancer as an authoritarian and coercive force — embedded within a totalitarian and destructive “tradition” that invades the life domains of both patients and caregivers — can contribute to psychological empowerment. This reframing fosters agency and supports the regeneration of hope. These findings align with Empowerment Theory, which posits that meaning-making in times of crisis, particularly through the concept of “struggle”, can enhance individuals’ sense of control, foster conscious decision-making, and reduce psychological passivity, thereby promoting self-empowerment (
12). In the present study, we observe an interpretive shift in which cancer is positioned within a narrative of struggle, one that, as Sulik also emphasizes (
23), reconfigures the individual's emotional stance from passivity to active confrontation. This narrative defines coping as a conscious act of resistance. It also enables caregivers to adopt a distinct and active role, thereby reclaiming a sense of control. Participants externalized cancer as a coercive and authoritarian force, representing it as a negative authority operating within a totalitarian and destructive “tradition” that permeates various domains of life. By employing this metaphorical framing, they moved beyond helplessness and fatalistic resignation, engaging instead in a process of “empowering externalization”. This allowed them to embody diffuse and ambiguous fears in the form of a concrete enemy, thereby adopting a more active stance and gaining a greater sense of psychological agency. This strategy is conceptually aligned with the narrative therapy practice of “externalizing the problem,” a technique that reduces passivity and fosters agentic engagement (
24). Furthermore, the transformation of diffuse and formless fear into a tangible threat echoes Yalom’s ideas in existential psychotherapy, which suggest that when individuals are unable to tolerate pervasive existential anxiety, they unconsciously convert it into specific fears (
25), a transformation that, in our findings, leads to its management. In this sense, the military metaphors employed by participants not only dramatized their experience but also facilitated the articulation of fear and anxiety in a coherent psycho-narrative framework. The construction of such a framework, motivational, oppositional, and oriented toward meaning-making, can play a critical role in restoring hope and reconstructing identity among both patients and caregivers (
26,
27). More recent studies, such as that of Ren and Ahn (
28), indicate that in the context of life-threatening illness, the way couples cope with crisis significantly influences their psychological transformation and meaningful personal growth. Consistent with these findings, the present study also revealed that, for some caregivers, the experience of a spouse’s serious illness served as a turning point for psychological development, value reappraisal, and personality transformation. In this regard, the theory of post-traumatic growth (
29) and the concept of the “search narrative”, which emphasizes transformation through illness (
30), converge on the idea that confronting a crisis can pave the way for redefining life goals, enhancing self-awareness, and shifting personal attitudes. According to the present study, and in line with the model of meaning-making in crisis (
31), the onset of cancer has been interpreted as a catalyst for redefining life’s meaning and experience among the wives of men diagnosed with cancer. Those who were able to engage in this meaning-making process, by reframing illness and suffering as opportunities to strengthen relationships or reassess life priorities, were also able to extract hope from their lived experience of the crisis. However, at this stage, reframing one’s attitude toward cancer as a manageable challenge becomes critically important. According to our findings, when the spouse or caregiver perceives cancer not as an uncontrollable catastrophe but as a challenge that can be managed, they are more likely to shift away from helplessness and psychological stagnation and move toward a state of hope and agency. The concept of controllability appraisal, as articulated in stress coping theory (
32) and self-efficacy theory (
13), suggests that perceiving a crisis as manageable can increase the likelihood of adopting active, problem-focused, and constructive coping strategies. According to our findings, such strategies are associated with a more hopeful outlook on the future and a greater sense of agency in the caregiving process.