This study delved into the experiences of mothers whose children underwent surgery for CHD. "Bitter and Difficult Motherhood Experience" encapsulates the unexpectedness of giving birth to a child with CHD and the necessity of surgery at a young age, which poses challenges for mothers in resiliently caring for their child. The diagnosis of CHD can induce significant emotional shock in mothers (
12). Fear of losing a child is identified as one of the most profound and distressing psychological stresses for parents (
13). Managing CHD requires continuous monitoring, multiple long-term interventions, and often surgery, which can exacerbate mothers' mental well-being (
4,
14,
15). Previous research, such as that by Sabzevari et al., has highlighted how mothers perceive a decline in their quality of life, significantly impacting their ability to care for their child (
16). Studies by Bruce et al. have shown that mothers of children with CHD often have to make personal sacrifices (
17). Preparing mothers to cope with such challenging circumstances is crucial, starting from the moment the child's diagnosis is confirmed. Hosseinrezaei et al. found that education significantly reduces anxiety among these mothers and improves their caregiving performance (
18). Additionally, given the high prevalence of CHD and the challenges associated with timely diagnosis, increasing public awareness and providing facilities for perinatal diagnosis and intrauterine surgery are imperative. The utilization of telemedicine facilities could potentially mitigate issues arising from the lack of diagnostic and treatment resources in less developed regions.
"In Search of Reassurance" refers to the efforts made by mothers to seek information and access the best services. In a qualitative study, David Vainberg et al. found that for parents, the experience of their child undergoing CHD surgery could be perceived as a turbulent period characterized by uncertainty, confusion, and helplessness (
19). At this stage, mothers sought to confirm the correctness of the diagnosis and the necessity of surgery by asking questions to healthcare professionals, consulting with parents of children with similar conditions, and searching the Internet. However, in many cases, these efforts led to stress and sometimes resulted in receiving inappropriate information. Khalifehzadeh et al. also emphasized that doctors and other healthcare team members must pay more attention to providing these mothers with information about the disease, treatments, and post-surgery care for children, as well as informing them about supportive care centers (
6). Additionally, creating virtual support groups for mothers and monitoring the exchange of accurate information among them, or recommending reputable websites for parents to obtain information and providing educational brochures, can help reassure mothers without requiring extensive time commitments.
The dynamics of network support underscore the need to combine the support of the healthcare team with empathy, while also making the support from surrounding individuals and peers less stressful for mothers. In a study by Valizadeh et al., parents considered certain beyond-the-duty tasks performed by the staff, comprehensive family support, and mutual facilitation among peers as resources to support them during their child’s surgery (
20). The behavior of the staff plays a significant role in the mental states of patients' companions and can contribute to stress and anxiety (
21). Khalifehzadeh et al. reported that healthcare professionals are expected to be more available to respond to mothers' requests (
6). Therefore, healthcare providers need to enhance their insights and perspectives on how to support mothers. For example, when obtaining consent before surgery, in addition to discussing the potential complications, it's important to highlight the benefits of the procedure. Overall, the support provided to parents should aim to minimize their negative experiences, thus strengthening their ability to cope internally (
19). Accordingly, healthcare providers should assess each family’s support resources and organize them to address deficiencies and shortcomings in the health service delivery system (
20). This involves providing both technical and emotional support to mothers to promote humanized care (
22) and underscores the importance of creating a perception of support from the healthcare system for mothers (
23).
The relative calm after the storm indicates the difficulty of accepting the double-edged sword of surgery. Then, with the assistance of spirituality, the success of the surgery, and the improvement of the child's physical condition, mothers gradually overcome the turmoil of surgery and achieve relative calmness. However, they still harbor endless worries about the child's health and life in the future. Examining the experiences of parents shortly after their children returned home from the hospital following CHD surgery, Simeone et al. also mentioned terms like happiness and uncertainty. They argued that these feelings arise when individuals encounter a new situation without a sense of security (
24). The fear of the child's uncertain future, treatment plan, and disease prognosis can lead to psychological problems, especially in mothers (
25). In the present study, mothers, despite their child's successful surgery, continued to have endless concerns about possible future issues, inhibiting them from achieving complete calmness. This contrasts with the findings of the Wei et al. study, where parents reported achieving a sense of fulfillment during child care (
7). This disparity may stem from differences in parental support and cultural norms regarding the role of parents in different countries. In Iran, parents, even when their children are adults, consider themselves responsible for their children’s lives.
The findings indicate that having faith and true belief in God, and trusting in spiritual powers, were among the comforting factors observed in all mothers at every stage of surgery. Parents' coping strategies heavily rely on their religious beliefs as a source of meaning and comfort (
19). Wasserman et al. argue that when stressful situations are beyond one's control, religious coping is more effective than non-religious coping (
26). Javedanpour et al. also emphasize the effect of spiritual care and the desire to receive it, believing it greatly aids these parents (
27). It is possible to greatly reduce mothers' discomfort and stress by creating an area near the operating room for worship, having a clergyman available to talk to parents when the child is in surgery, providing training and preparation for postoperative care at home, establishing a telephone line for answering parents' questions after discharge, offering home care services, and providing educational brochures about home-based care.
The strength of this research lies in conducting separate interviews at three stages: pre-surgery, during surgery, and post-surgery, with each participant. This approach minimized the likelihood of mothers forgetting their experiences and helped to capture their experiences comprehensively throughout the different stages of surgery and post-discharge. However, a limitation of the research was the absence of fathers in the study. Since fathers are not the primary caregivers of children undergoing CHD surgery in pediatric wards, this limits the generalizability of the results for fathers.
5.1. Conclusions
The shock induced by CHD and the challenges of caring for the child made facing surgery a nightmare for the mothers. Overcoming the surgical nightmare and achieving relative calm became possible through seeking information and spirituality, although concerns for the child's uncertain future persisted. It is recommended that care provision focus on preparing and empowering mothers before surgery. Healthcare team members can also enhance mothers' adaptation and resilience by adopting reassuring behavior, providing spiritual care, and guiding the social network to support them effectively.