Children and adolescents constitute a major segment of the world's population, and their health is particularly important in any society. In recent years, attention has been paid to the issues faced by children under the title of morbid psychology of children, which is one of the major topics in psychiatry and psychology (
1). Recent research in the field of developmental pathology shows that two areas of childhood psychological disorders are particularly important in understanding the adaptation of children and adolescents: Internalized and externalized disorders (
2). In the internalized group, disorders manifest themselves with anxiety symptoms, depression, and physical symptoms, whereas the externalized group includes destructive behavioral symptoms, impulsivity, and drug use (
3). In research studying internalizing and externalizing disorders, interpersonal factors, such as the role of parents, are often examined (
4).
The family is known as the builder and foundation of a child's personality and subsequent behaviors. Mothers spend more time with their children than other family members, and in this process, an attachment relationship is formed between them (
5). Therefore, the mother, as the primary caregiver or attachment figure, is the first person with whom the infant communicates. Researchers have found that there is a relationship between the mother's low reflective capacity and behavioral problems in children, including attention problems, aggression, social isolation, anxiety, and disruption in parent-child interaction (
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Parental acceptance involves attending to the interests of the child and offering unconditional love regardless of the child's appearance, abilities, or behavior (
9). Parental acceptance helps the child learn that they can count on support and help from others in life. Acquiring a proper understanding and acceptance of children's behavior can be a predictor of parents' empathy with their children and their correct understanding of children's behavioral problems (
10). The parent-child relationship can have a tremendous impact on various aspects of the parent-child dynamic, such as increasing the understanding and acceptance of the parents toward the child. Parental acceptance is emphasized as an effective factor in the formation of high levels of self-concept in children (
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Among family members, the mother's personality and the way she communicates with the child are of fundamental importance (
12). The child's behavioral problems in the early years of life are related to the mother's negative behavior and communication and her stress, and thus the child's problematic behavior causes unpleasant emotional reactions and a decrease in the mother's general health (
13). Parenting self-efficacy is defined as one of the main variables of this research based on Bandura's concept of self-efficacy (
14,
15). It has been proven that mothers who feel satisfied in their role as mothers have favorable relationships with their children, and unlike mothers who feel ineffective, they do not have problems in their relationship with their children (
16). Children with behavioral problems, due to the presence of emotional, cognitive, and behavioral issues, cannot communicate with others like their peers, especially their mother. Therefore, mothers may be more confused when dealing with these children and may not be able to treat them correctly (
17). According to Bandura, performance gains can lead to an increase or decrease in self-efficacy. Therefore, children who calm down easily give the mother a sense of security, and this self-efficacy improves the parent-child relationship and results in mutual satisfaction in both the parent and the child (
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Self-concept is a dynamic system that relates to a person's beliefs, values, desires, talents, and abilities. These factors determine a person's life path. The family is the first and most important social system influencing the formation of self-concept and self-esteem (
20,
21). In fact, the primary interactions between parent and child are fundamental for the development of a sense of self-worth in early childhood (
22). As stated, self-concept is a person's overall evaluation of themselves. This evaluation results from the individual's subjective assessments of their own characteristics, which may be positive or negative (
23). A positive self-concept indicates that a person accepts themselves as someone with strengths and weaknesses, increasing their self-confidence in social relationships. A negative self-concept reflects feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy as well as an individual's perceived inability. Research shows that the development of self-concept in children and adolescents depends on their experiences and perceptions of the family, especially parents (
24). The deep bond and emotional relationship between parents and children are important, as they foster self-confidence in children. A calm, obedient, and healthy child improves the parent's self-concept. On the other hand, a difficult child can weaken the self-concept of parents, especially the mother, and this weakened self-concept can damage the parent-child relationship and negatively affect the mother's self-concept (
25).
In addition to children's behavioral challenges that are affected by neuropsychological and developmental issues, it seems that the family has a decisive role in managing this challenging behavior. Research has shown that family patterns can contribute to the creation of behavioral and emotional problems in children. On the one hand, these disorders are related to a child's reaction to family dysfunction, and on the other hand, to inappropriate environmental stimuli, such as non-acceptance of the child, and lack of affection and sufficient support from the parents (
26). Therefore, timely and appropriate psychological interventions can significantly reduce problems related to children with these issues, and several treatments can be utilized in this regard.
The findings show that parent/child therapeutic relationship training has led to an increase in parental acceptance in children (
27,
28). One of the most effective ways to communicate between parents and children is schema-based parenting (
29). The main assumption of this theory is based on the principle that the root of the formation of maladaptive schemas arising from unsatisfied basic emotional needs is in the parenting perceived during childhood and adolescence (
29). This theory explains why providing these needs is necessary and obligatory for raising children psychologically. In the formation of schemas, the inherent mood interacts with initial non-adaptive communication experiences (
30). In a study, Graaf & Zarbock showed that understanding the interrelationship between parental schemas, family patterns, and child responses provides a rich opportunity for healing and early intervention to prevent the development of psychopathology (
31). In examining the effect of parents' performance in relation to the three components of affection, authority, and control and the formation of primary incompatible schemas, Gunty concluded that parental performance is a significant predictor for some areas such as rejection and self-management (
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One of the treatment methods whose effectiveness on parenting self-efficacy, self-concept, and parental acceptance of children with internalized problems has received less attention from researchers is parenting education based on compassion. In most families, according to the assigned roles and tasks, the mother has the most interaction with the child, and among the many factors of human relations that are effective in the development of the child, the mother's personality and the way she communicates with the child are of fundamental importance (
33). Among the therapeutic and educational activities that focus on the parent, especially the mother, is education focused on kindness. Compassion involves providing empathy and non-judgmental understanding towards one's own pains, sufferings, mistakes, and inadequacies, in such a way that one sees one's bitter experiences as a larger part of human experiences (
34). The basic principles in treatment based on compassion indicate that external soothing thoughts, agents, images, and behaviors must be internalized. Based on these findings and in line with the successes achieved, Gilbert started using this structure in therapy sessions and proposed the theory of "compassion-based therapy" (
35). In this treatment method, instead of focusing on changing the "self-evaluation" of people, the relationship of people with their "self-evaluation" is changed (
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Considering the mother-child interaction and the fact that many children's behavioral problems are caused by the way parents, especially the mother, deal with the child, research in this field seems necessary. By teaching self-compassion exercises, mothers seeking to find the principles of self-compassion realized that they could achieve a non-judgmental view of themselves, reflect on their problems and sufferings, and be more kind and patient towards themselves. In this way, by accepting their painful experiences and giving up excessive negative evaluations of experiences, mothers were guided to a position of kindness towards themselves. This, according to the sense of human commonality, allowed them to see themselves and others with more understanding and reduced their unnecessary stress by realizing that pain and failure exist in all human beings (
35). Amini Naghani et al. found that parenting training and proper child therapy based on effective child-mother interaction reduced children's anxiety (
37). In their research, Rezaei et al. showed that education based on mothers' affection may be a new and effective way to reduce the behavioral problems of preschool children with behavioral and cognitive issues; because the mental health of parents and the quality of their relationship affect the behavior of their children (
38).