This study aimed to investigate the effectiveness of schema therapy in improving marital satisfaction and reducing marital conflict in the mothers of children with intellectual disability. The results revealed that schema therapy improved marital satisfaction and reduced marital conflict in these mothers compared to the control group. The present findings were consistent with the results reported by Yousefi et al. (
25) Khatamsaz et al. (
26), Mokhtari et al. (
27), Bahmani et al. (
28), Hatami and Fadayi (
29), and Nooroney et al. (
19).
The effectiveness of schema therapy has been confirmed in the treatment of disorders, such as depression, chronic anxiety, and eating disorders, as well as mitigation of marital conflict and common problems in maintaining an intimate marital relationship (
30). Several studies have investigated the relationship of schemas with marital satisfaction, marital conflict, and mental disorders (
12). In this regard, Weissman showed that triggering each couple’s schemas during therapeutic sessions could be useful in assessing their satisfaction or dissatisfaction with the marital relationship (
31). Moreover, Nooroney et al. found that schema therapy reduced the mothers’ marital conflict (
19). Besides, Nozari et al. reported that schema therapy increased marital satisfaction in mothers of autistic children (
21). According to the theory proposed by Young et al. (
30), schema therapy can lead to changes in the cognitive, experiential, emotional, social, and behavioral aspects of an individual’s life. This therapeutic approach seems to be effective in weakening maladaptive schemas and responses and replacing them with positive thoughts and responses.
Generally, maladaptive schemas lead to an individual’s misinterpretation of events, which can present as misunderstandings, misconceptions, and unrealistic expectations. Mothers of children with intellectual disability have certain misconceptions, which can result in inappropriate behaviors, regardless of the possible consequences. This mindset is commonly triggered when an issue is of high sensitivity to the individual, leading to disturbing emotions, avoidance responses, or harmful behaviors.
Schema therapy can help individuals identify their maladaptive schemas and become aware of the factors that contribute to their persistence (e.g., extreme avoidance, submission, and compensation). In the present study, by using experimental techniques that trigger emotions associated with maladaptive schemas, we tried to improve the mothers’ responses and satisfy their unfulfilled needs. Moreover, by using the mental imagery technique, in which schemas are transferred from the logical realm to the emotional realm, we attempted to help women find the link between the developmental roots of their schemas and their current life problems, such as having a mentally ill child and its associated problems (e.g., medical expenses, care and nursing, and marital conflict), so that they can communicate with their spouses more effectively.
For example, some of the beliefs and behaviors of mothers of children with intellectual disability, such as shame and embarrassment about having a disabled child, fear of other people’s opinions, humiliation by others (considering oneself worthy of humiliation), social pressure, and self-isolation, can present their defectiveness/shame schema. By explaining this type of schema -in which the person considers oneself and other family members to be imperfect and underestimates oneself- and describing its roots and coping styles for individuals, they will become aware of their avoidance behaviors and show alternate active behaviors (e.g., speaking in public and expressing the capabilities and strengths of oneself and one’s child and spouse); and this can lead to positive behavioral changes.
Regarding the schema of strict criteria, the parents’ awareness of their exhausting behaviors (e.g., continuous care of the disabled child, high cost of treatment and rehabilitation, allocation of time to regular visits to rehabilitation centers, and comparison of their disabled child with other children) along with their awareness of the developmental roots of their schemas (e.g., always wanting oneself and one’s family to be the best) encourage them to pay more attention to their own diverse needs, as well as the needs of their spouse and children. In other words, they accept the fact that people are mentally and physically diverse and that different people have different abilities and limitations. Moreover, these parents can make plans for other aspects of their lives (e.g., spending time alone or with their spouse) and increase their social interactions; this can subsequently improve marital relationship and satisfaction.
Moreover, mothers with a self-sacrifice schema spend most of their time caring for their children; however, excessive caring for mentally disabled children increases their dependence on them. In schema therapy, these mothers are trained to concentrate on their self-sacrifice schema. While prioritizing their own personal needs, they learn to allow their children to work on their functional, behavioral, and adaptation skills with perseverance and continuous practice. Another possible reason for the effectiveness of schema therapy in increasing marital satisfaction is training of skills, such as active listening to the spouse, explaining and paying attention to various emotional and psychological needs of individuals (especially one’s spouse), empathy, and promoting communication skills via mental imagery and role-playing techniques to mitigate the emotional deprivation schema. Overall, by changing the parents’ misconceptions about the reason for the birth of their disabled child (involving self-blame, guilt, feeling of being ill-fated, and feeling of extreme responsibility toward the child without the support of others), recognizing the schemas of oneself and the spouse, and finding strategies to increase marital satisfaction and quality of life, it is possible to increase the marital satisfaction of mothers of children with intellectual disability.
According to Young et al.’s theory (
30), schema therapy is an approach, consisting of cognitive, behavioral, interpersonal, attachment, and experimental aspects in the context of an integrated therapeutic model. By employing cognitive, behavioral, communication, and experimental techniques, schema therapy can challenge maladaptive schemas, which are the main causes of irrational thoughts, and lead to the expression of repressed negative emotions, such as anger because of dissatisfaction of self-motivation needs and secure attachment to others in childhood. In other words, in schema therapy, behavioral assignments are designed and implemented to replace the person’s maladaptive behavioral patterns with appropriate coping responses.
During schema therapy, therapists try to satisfy the client’s unmet needs by drawing therapeutic boundaries, without deviating from ethical principles. In this study, women with disobedience schemas were asked to write a number of criticisms about the therapist and the therapeutic process. Also, those with a shame and embarrassment schema were encouraged to express themselves. They were asked to write down their spouse’s strengths, weaknesses, and positive or negative behaviors on a piece of paper and read them publicly in the next session.
Based on the findings, schema therapy promoted adaptive strategies and improved marital satisfaction in the mothers of children with intellectual disability. The results of this study, while approving the research hypothesis, showed that schema therapy plays an effective and important role in promoting the marital satisfaction of mothers of children with intellectual disability. Moreover, it enhances marital intimacy and the couple’s quality of life by assessing their core beliefs and modifying maladaptive schemas. Overall, modification of these schemas can be a suitable approach to improve the couple’s relationship. Also, it seems essential to pay attention to factors affecting the quality of life and marital satisfaction of mothers of children with intellectual disability who face many difficulties and challenges in everyday life. By screening the maladaptive schemas of these mothers and identifying their coping strategies, therapists can implement preventive and interventional programs to reduce their communication problems.
5.1. Limitations
One of the limitations of this study is that it was performed merely on the mothers of children with intellectual disability. Therefore, the results should be generalized to other mothers and families with caution. Also, we faced many challenges in obtaining the necessary permissions to hold the training sessions and accessing the mothers due to the high sensitivity of these families.