The present study compised 10 participants including 5 mothers, 1 grandmother, 2 fathers and 2 nurses participated. The average age of mother was 33; the average age of father was 44; the grandmother was 50; the average age of nurses was 45; the average work experience of nurses was 20, and the average work experience in the thalassemia department was 4 years.
Having analyzed data, we specified the three following categories: non-acceptance of child’s disease, parents ‘psychological reactions, isolation (
Table 2).
| Category | Subcategory |
|---|
| Non-acceptance of child’s disease | Disbelief |
| Not following up treatment |
| Interest for abortion |
| Parents’ psychological reactions | Unhappiness |
| Anxiety |
| Mental confusion |
| Isolation | Dissociation |
| Stigma |
4.1. Non-Acceptance of Disease
This category was determined with three subcategories: disbelief, not following up treatment, and interest for abortion. Most parents stated that at first they did not believe the child with thalassemia; they even attempted to abort him, although they were more than six months pregnant. One mother said: “We didn’t believe he has thalassemia even after one year. They didn’t even issue him an insurance booklet and every time I begged them to do s.th. The personnel told us that our child has a problem, but I couldn’t believe it. It took one year to get used to and accept that my child is sick.” (mother 4)
Another mother said:
“At first it was very difficult for me, but I could get along with it. When we married, I didn’t want to have a child. When I realized I was already pregnant for six months, it was too late. We went to forensic for abortion but they didn’t accept. They said that they did not have the right to kill babies, it is unlawful.” (m 2)
A nurse stated that:
“At first, most parents don’t believe in their child’s disease. They think it’s an acute disease which doesn’t need follow-up. However, they generally realize the chronic nature of the disease.” (nurse 1)
4.2. Parent Psychological Reactions
Category of parent psychological reactions was obtained with three subcategories of unhappiness, anxiety and mental confusion.
Most parents stated that they experienced several psychological reactions after realizing that their child was inflicted with thalassemia. In this regard, a mother said:
“I am worried; I’m always scared that something may happen to my child. When I ask other mothers, they say that we are all the same, we are depressed we cannot control the bad thoughts ...” (m 2)
Another mother said:
“Since I heard my child has thalassemia, I have suffered from psychological problems. It’s more difficult for parents. Taking blood from a child really upsets me.
Frequent blood transfusions bothered me …” (m 5)
A father said:
“It’s very difficult when they take blood from our child before us because they should be under supervision. But it’s more difficult for me as I am a father and I can’t see my child suffering …” (f 2)
4.3. Isolation
Data analysis specified the category of isolation with two subcategories of dissociation and stigma.
Most parents stated that thalassemia means illness of all family members. They also become isolated by having a child with thalassemia. In this regard a mother said:
“My child is in another village and he comes home at night. It is difficult to take a taxi. We both suffer. After taking blood, I take him home until he feels better. If he was healthy, he didn’t need me. They need help a lot. I should forget myself and help them anyway …” (m 5)
Another mother stated:
“Well, it affects parents’ spirit a lot. For example, they say that the child is sick, those with thalassemia are sensitive. Some people stop associating with others. They don’t go to the wedding party because of their child’s appearance.” (m 3)
“I have several years of experience. Many mothers are ashamed of their child’s illness and even they feel ashamed that they even hide the child’s illness from a very close family.” (n 1)